Love Relationships

Out of the mouths of babes….”Mom, you can’t find Love by hiding out in your bedroom”
Love and Relationships are something I consider a priority. I have been a single mom for 13 years now. My sons are growing and have love relationships of their own and its time for me to find a romantic relationship of my own. And, my son is right, I am not likely to find it by sitting in my room.
When I broke down relationships into three categories, family, friends and love interest, I decided I should take baby steps in order to make lasting changes. In order to do this, I selected one goal for each of the three sub-categories, family, friends, love interest.
I made family dinner on Sunday a priority and I made a monthly date night with each son a priority. I also took a look at how I can improve my friendships. The last part of relationships I needed to evaluate.. my love interest.
So, how can I make my love interest a priority when I don’t have one?
Well… I decided my wise 15 year old was correct when he basically told me to get off my ass and meet some people.
Now, when I started thinking about it, the best way to meet someone with similar interests, is to meet someone while doing something I am interested in.. This is easy.. I can easily list my hobbies, my recreation moments of blissful timelessness. When I apply the Pareto Principle again, I already know what things I love doing, like dancing, hiking, camping, scuba diving…. but I do not make them a priority. That is for another post, but the fact is, if I start scheduling time to do the things I love, I am more likely to meet someone with similar interests. I could make new friends who also love dancing or scuba diving or any of the other things I love, or I could even meet a potential love interest.
Truly, this becomes a multi-purpose agenda item, by making time for the things I love, I am making myself happy, I am also meeting people who love to do the same things I love. While my goal in making myself a priority and doing more of the things I love is not to meet a potential love interest…. staying at home will never get me there, so what can it hurt?